If Live-in relationship goes kaput: Is the man liable to pay for upkeep for any issue, if at all?

Afternoon Voice 

After industrial revolution, capitalist revolution and communist revolution, one more revolution have hit the world which have entered into the house, mind and culture of the people uprooting the social and moral values in the form of sex revolution, Live in relationships.

What is it that makes marriage desirable?

Why not just live in together and walk away when it becomes inconvenient?

Why get married and then suffer the trauma of divorce if you are incompatible?

Why spend rest of your life with a person whose wavelength doesn’t match yours?

We don’t want to marry, we need liberty, we need to understand partner, we know to know whether we can adjust or not, we need time to take decision are all the crap arguments of live-in relationships. I would rather say, why don’t they simply speak “we need free sex?” A sex where you don’t have husband/wife responsibility, no need to question and answer each other, no need to care for the sentiments, just come from office, have your dinner, some television shows, some gupshups, finally enjoy on bed to release all day stress in a polyurethane shield. This is what live-in relationship meant today. It is indeed a very good alternative to carry on with illegitimate sex targeting the problems of marriage with some false and invalid arguments. This has targeted the glorious tradition of marriage where a couple is approved by a society as a “married couple” under religious knot. If live-in trend is right, then what I see in future is there is no beautiful occasion of ‘karwa chauth’ where a wife prays for a long life of husband.

As usual immodest western trend has again hit India and become very popular. There are number of unmarried couples staying together.  With high rate of educated people whether girls or boys living away from their families, it becomes easier for younger generation to experiment with such relationships without being committed. A couple can choose to move out of relationship when they are not satisfied. The Supreme Court of India, ruled out that live-in relationship cannot be considered as on offence. These observations were made especially on the case of South Indian actress who made statements endorsing pre-marital sex and use of contraceptives. Supreme Court of India had cited an example of Hindu god Krishna and Radha to validate its judgement on live-in relationship. Shame on the judgement and thinking of Supreme Court of India! They have compared today’s western culture live-in relationship with relation of Krishna and Radha who had given this world a never ending example of true love, feeling, caring and sacrificing story.

Following this trend, the younger is dating regularly, number of people living together without marriage has increased and changing partners like clothes have become very common. Increasing influences of Bollywood movies and celebrities life have has easily convinced the younger generations to dive and drown in this immoral water pool.

In 2005, Saif Ali Khan and Preity Zinta starrer movie Salam Namaste was highly acclaimed as it had committed to carry a message of different love story of young unmarried couple promoting live-in relationship. I don’t think anyone else would have performed this role as good as this couple had performed. Saif is a real life divorced man of Amrita Singh and Preity Zinta is already in such relationship with Ness Wadia. These celebrities always perform and try to convince the people with all wrong doing what they actually do in their real life.

If live-in partners are opting this way as a solution to mis-haps of marriage, then they must understand love that all we want from partner is not possible without both having a commitment of cooperation and compromises to try and make it last. If you have option to walk out, then what’s the point in staying together? I can produce various arguments for anytime dominancy of marriage on live-in relationships who opt this alternative to avoid false accusation, compensation, child custody etc at the time of divorce. The worst aspect of live-in relationship is the presence of individual as long as their relationship meets their desire.

But the most affected person in live-in relationship is their born children. If left no doubt that a children’s emotional development is poor if a parent is under live-in relationship. The worry of breaking relationship between their illegitimate parents always bothers a child. No one amongst couple is biologically responsible for child. In UK, there are 25% children born to unmarried couple. One issue is if a live-in couple bears a child and if they separate, who is responsible for the child upkeep? Now, live in relationship is a collective effort of man and women. This mean man and woman shared equal status in the relation. A man is nowhere dominant to woman in such relations. As compared to man, a woman faces more of society pressure. To keep such relation, if she can fight with her family, faces society’s eyes, then it is quite obvious she is equally responsible for all upkeeps in these relations. Women empowerment, a 21^st century slogan where she is considered equal to he, there is no point to held man as a sole upkeep in such relation. But as far as I know, Indian culture will never want their future heroes born to unmarried couple. Our heroes need a father’s name to maintain our traditional glorious social, cultural, ethical and moral values. We the people of this country don’t want “Ram Jaane” kind of parents. The parents who support this free sex trend should know that they also have sons and daughters in front. Will they allow their daughters to live in without marriage with a boy sharing everything? This trend of live-in relationship is havoc for the society. To destruct this “destructive practice” one need to understand is “a place where couple lives under one roof and share their bed without marriage is not a house, it is a brothel”.